Cambridgeshire domestic abuse survivor shares important message ahead of Valentine's Day

There are a range of support services to help victims of domestic abuse

Victims suffering from abuse are being encouraged to take the brave step of reaching out for support as part of the annual celebration of romantic love.

In a heartfelt message, a local survivor of domestic abuse has shared the following words in a bid to empower others to speak out against abuse: “Real love is not about being controlled to a point of having to sacrifice every part of yourself and losing your identity and freedoms.

“Real love is about mutual trust, respect and kindness and a willingness to listen and work together to bring out the best in one another.

“Your recovery starts the day you leave. You see the extent of your unconditional love for staying and trying to fix them. You see the strength of your mind from when you’ve been at the brink of breaking. You see the courage you have when you finally stand up to the monster and leave.”

In January alone, the force recorded 1,207 reports of domestic abuse across Cambridgeshire, an 8% increase compared to the same period last year.

Detective Inspector Dave Savill said: "As we go through a third national lockdown, we fully appreciate that many victims of domestic abuse may be suffering in silence while stuck inside with an abusive person.

"That's why our commitment and dedication towards tackling domestic abuse is more important than ever and I cannot stress enough how keen we are to hear from victims or concerned loved ones.

"The next few days are all about celebrating love, something which sadly not everyone experiences. So while it may not be the traditional Valentine's Day this year, my message to anyone suffering is that you deserve real love.

"Everyone has the right to live a safe and happy life and we're here ready and waiting to support you."

Victims of abuse who are in immediate danger and are unable to speak are reminded of the Silent Solution system. By calling 999 and then pressing 55, callers will be transferred to a call handler who will be able to assess and arrange help without them needing to speak.

More information on this service can be found on the force website.

Local and national support for victims:

Always dial 999 in an emergency. If victims are in danger and cannot speak, dial 999 then press 55. They will be transferred to a call handler who will attempt to ask simple yes or no questions. If they can’t speak at all, listen carefully to the questions and instructions of the call handler so they can assess and arrange help.

Police 101 non-emergency number

Police web chat Police online crime report Cambridgeshire’s Victim and Witness Hub - 0800 781 6818

Cambridge Women’s Aid – 01223 361214

Peterborough Women’s Aid – 08454103123

Fenland, Huntingdonshire and Peterborough Refuge – 07787255821

Men’s Advice Line – 08088010327

National Domestic Abuse Helpline – 08082000247

National Stalking Helpline – 08088020300

LGBT Abuse Helpline – 08009995428

Honour Based Abuse Helpline – 08005999247

Cambridge Rape Crisis - 01223 245888

Peterborough Rape Crisis - 01733 852578