Embrace the unknown and find friends like you
Local friendly society, Nene & Welland Oddfellows, says when it comes to meeting new people it's important to embrace the unknown.
To inspire others to give a new community group a go, its members have stepped forward to share that, while it’s normal to feel anxious at first, pushing past any nerves increases the chance of finding a place where you can relax and be yourself.
Alan and June Holt from Pinchbeck (pictured) are members of the Oddfellows’ Nene & Welland Branch and have experienced this firsthand. For more than 50 years, they have been part of the local group that meets regularly to socialise, try new activities, and build supportive friendships.
“Trying a new club or group for the first time is nerve-wracking, no question about it,” said Alan. “But that’s because it’s a new experience, not because you can’t do it. The thing is, sometimes you need to step outside your comfort zone to find places and people where you can feel totally at ease. It’s about finding a community where you can relax, laugh, and really feel comfortable.”
“But it’s the first step that can be the hardest. Once you make that leap and see the kind of people you’re surrounded by, it doesn’t feel so scary anymore,” June added.
Alan and June’s experience isn’t unique, says Nene & Welland Oddfellows, and adds that most newcomers feel this way. With a focus on connection, the group says supportive environments are key to helping people try new things without feeling out of their depth.
The local not-for-profit organises and hosts around nine events a month, including regular meetups in Market Deeping, Surfleet, and Thorney including coffee mornings, lunch clubs, and talks. The Branch also organises trips, offering a mix of light-hearted social events and enriching experiences.
Sarah Hitchcock who helps co-ordinates events for Nene & Welland Oddfellows and a member for 20 years herself, explains that every gathering is designed with four things in mind.
“Our events offer four things: regularity – so you’ve always got something to look forward to; variety – so you can try new things; reassurance – a friendly, welcoming environment; and affordability – so no one misses out on good company because of cost,” she said.
Newcomers are invited to get in touch and try an event. These include a Christmas Surprise Bingo starting at 2pm on Saturday, December 13 at Market Deeping’s Coronation Hall. There is also a Vegetarian Lunch on Saturday, January 17 starting at 12:30pm and a talk ‘New Year, New You’ by One You Lincoln on Tuesday, January 20 at 10:30am both at Oddfellows Hall, 57 Church Street, Market Deeping PE6 8AN. Please book with the office on 01778 342006 or email [email protected]
Added Sarah: “Whether you're new to the area, looking to meet people, or simply seeking a change in routine, we’ve something for everyone. Our wide range of activities makes it an easy place for people to dip their toes into the world of socialising without feeling overwhelmed.”
The Oddfellows’ Nene & Welland Branch is one of 96 across the country which aims to connect local people and foster a sense of belonging within communities by making sure everyone is made welcome.
To find out more about the upcoming activities of Nene & Welland Oddfellows, or to request a free information pack, including a diary of local events, call Oddfellows free membership number on: 0800 028 1810, email [email protected], or visit www.oddfellows.co.uk/activities.