She's a 28-year-old Indian woman, wanting to convert to Islam. She's been struggling with her family for numerous reasons and spoke about being able to relate to the teachings of Islam, which I admit did make me feel proud.

Which is why, I guess, I was semi surprised that I didn't volunteer to bring one of my many hijabs in and teach her how to tie it.

Instead, I looked up for guidance and I could almost feel God looking right back at me.

"God, please help me find the right answer," I whispered in my head.

"Do you think you're ready for it?" I asked

"I've been told that it's something I have to do eventually," she replied.

"Well, I guess it's really up to you to decide when you're ready to make that type of commitment," I said.

After sharing my own experience of wearing the headscarf and what it meant to me, I gave her a few websites where support is given to people who are wanting to convert to Islam.

When I finished I looked up again, hoping to feel some kind of approval.

I sat with myself for a few seconds trying to absorb any response from God wondering whether I got it right.

You see many Muslims might feel they would know exactly what to say but may be, just may be, without even being aware of it herself this woman was testing me to see if there was any conditioning in my kindness, or an archetype she must declare to, to really be accepted – something she had always experienced in relationships.

And I hoped that by showing regard and being sensitive to the complexity of why one may choose to welcome religion into their life, would be more inviting for the long term, than anyone preaching to them what they should or should not do.

It also gives them a chance to take responsibility for the changes they are making in their lives and develop their own personal relationship with God.

I strongly believe that there is a difference in turning to religion in the hope that it will rid you of your insecurities, which is when religion is most vulnerable to being manipulated to suit a self fulfilling need rather than allowing us to realise that we are insecure beings and we need guidance in how to cope with that.